I suggest you carry on enjoying each others company and carry on talking, and my guess is that in the next few years therell be fresh information that will help you both decide.
I loved this post so much because i've always dated older men (my current boyfriend is 36 and i'm 25).
Saw it as a celebration of older men, with a bit of fun-poking mixed in, but each to their own!
Am 21 years old black the guy i am dating is 47 years old and white with two little kids.
The same applies to all other important relationships at least half my female friends are significantly older than i am, simply because i appreciate their outlook on life, their humour, their wisdom.
, i find it interesting that your brother's relationship with a woman three years his senior even qualifies to be in the same ballpark as relationships in which women are paired with decades-older men.
Ive learned just as much dating people younger than me as ive learned from going out with people older than me.
Female choices are influences by social attitudes, such as gender stereotyping, and a preference for older men seems like an situation that could definitely be described as influenced by societies ideas about protection/male provider, ect.
And then in the two years that followed, i fell in love with him entirely.
My daughter is dating a man older than me
Tits were not the best example to use and i understand how it may have read as sad but i was actually trying to illustrate that in fact my youth (and his age) is only a very small and rather insignificant part of the appeal; and while the pros (and cons) of dating a younger/ older person are acknowledged we shouldnt linger on the stereotypes but rather move on.
If i happen to be dating an older man or woman, i want them to be as smart as i am.
, i know this is an older post, but i stumbled upon it at the right time.
You say that this article is celebrating the material comfort that older men bring, but i didnt get that from anything in the entire article.
With age comes experience, which is why many younger women will always want to date older men.
Married to a man who is 40 years older than i (62/22) and i couldnt be happier!
I find that there's so much less drama with older men i'm not sure whether that's because we had different friends or because we just weren't concerned about the same things that younger/same-age couples are.
This young woman may be 27 years your junior, but at 33 she's a grown woman, and based on your description of her, it sounds like she's at a stage in her life where she knows what she's looking for.
, if i may be so bold, sex with older men is so, so, so different (and better, in my opinion).
In which case, this would be a power dynamic in which the older man is dominant.
The other hand i see so many twenty-something men living the bro lifestyle and i can see why a younger woman would go for an older man.
I think that this article is valuable as it presents the choice to date older men as normal and legitimate, as something that does not automatically diminish a womans intelligence or make her any less of a feminist.
Before you go bounding merrily across the age gap, there are some things youll need to get your head around if youre considering dating an older man.
Obviously if you fancy older guys then go for it but you cant act like that makes no contribution to how men view women and vice versa.
Is this relationship going to waste the last years of your twenties, leaving you in your early thirties trying to find someone who does want children just at the time when society tells you youre up against it for fertility reasons?
I know i am only 22, but i have never had a desire for children, and as i get older i have had less a desire.
I got into a relationship with another guy, who was older by 5 years this time, not 17.
Dont think it is a big deal at all that my boyfriend is 15 years older than me.
I used to think less of women that would go for a much older guy as well before i experienced it.
Am only leaving a comment because i am now classed as the younger woman dating the older man, even though i dont feel this is the case, but yes there is 17 years between us and we have both been through other marriages in our lives, we both have children(his more grown up than mine) but what i am trying to express is that we both found each other when we were both going through some hard times in our lives, we had friendship first, and lust came later when we got to know each other and with time passing came love.
Younger women arent as old and boring as older women, just as younger males are hopelessly immature.
Thank you for reminding me im in fine company with women who date -significantly- older people.
This was not a prescriptive piece suggesting that all twenty-somethings should go out and date older men; it was just one persons lighthearted expression of their own preference and the quirks involved.
Would have been a much more intelligent and thought provoking article if the author had explained why she prefered older men in terms of these social attitudes, ie.
I recently became interested in a co worker of mine (we've worked together for nearly two years), but since i'm in a supervisor position, dating isn't allowed.
All i'm saying is, you can make your decisions, and if you're into men older than you, go for it.
What i wanted to share is my current man is 23 years older than me (im 26 and hes 49) not to mention that im asian and hes european and were doing the oh-so-called-ldr -, even with so many differences, we dont find any difficulties to build this relationship.
A person in their twenties is not the equal in life experience of someone much older, and this causes imbalances of power.
My best friend is a man 29 years older than i, and though we are both crazy about each other, the so-called obstacles are still keeping us from being in a relationship.
Article is just simply expressing dating an older man and it being ok to do somany younger people who date older get harsh criticism from much of society because it isnt as socially acceptable as other concepts are and because its not what people consider traditional, however, that does not make it wrong or bad to do so.
Most people think teenage girls who like older men have "daddy issues" but i can assure you i have a very loving, hard working, and present father.
The thing i love this guy and he mean everything 2 me, my fear is that wil my family accept him with 15 years gap?
I have saved hundreds of pounds on waxing and makeup in the past two years yet still have to deal with him resisting me carrying my own suitcase.
But if issues like this are a post for another day, not addressing them makes this one just another how to bag older guys kind of thing.
I am aware of no culture on earth where dating women 20 yrs older than oneself is preferred.
I still say well done to the writer for wanting to celebrate liking older men.
With an older man is seen as backwards, something that only happens in third world countries through arranged marriages.
Ive done a lot with my life in the last 8 years and i think she knows i can make a good decision.
Its not new money (or young money) where he wants to go out and blow it on stupid things; its the earned life hes been creating for years.
To presume that women are attracted to older men for their experience etc is to pass vast quantities of judgement on relationships of which you have no knowledge.
Relationship was casual at firsti was flattered a little, but really had no long term interest and i though she was just curious about older men or something.
Of all, as somehow who generally dates above their age, i resent what you are saying about women who choose to date older men when you argue that its a question of wealth.
We have been dating for 3 fast years and it has been an amazing journey and i cannot wait to see what the future holds for us.
I dont think its a competition with older women, im sad that you think that.
The internet is not a great way to get involved with somebody so much older than you.
I believe there is absolutely nothing wrong with having an older man, if he is respectful, treats you right, and loves you dearly, then there is no problem, and most of society should be accepting.
I really enjoyed reading this and was hoping to read other womens experiences of dating older men.
Have accepted the consequences of a long term relationship like this but i camt change the fact i have always found older men more attractive- i have tried dating younger found it a waste of time and was not remotely interested- unfortunately only my mother wo passed earlier this year accepted this non of my other family members to much appreciate him and my choises but i love him and enjoy my life so why cant they?
While i am not particularly worried about my children having an older father (my siblings and i did), the thought of being a widow for 20-plus years terrifies me.
I tried hooking him up with my sister, but that did not last very long, and then with an older friend of mine, and that did not work out either.
If a woman likes older men, then telling her not to go for what she wants is the anti-feminist, misogynist thing to do.
Am dating a man, i just found out is 17 years older than i am (i'm 25) but i really like him and i think i will keep seeing him and figure things out along the way.
All, this is the vagenda, a no bullshit guide to the media, not a no bullshit guide to dating older men, or ehs love-life.
Then he came our place, we realized that both of us knew each other about 10 years back.