Matthews in the midst of a divorce, the ashley madison data breach has revealed new, disturbing details of his wifes infidelity.
He kept our relationship respectable, knowing that both black and white would sometimes respond negativley.
'm a white person who grew up mostly in a 3/4 black community in the south, with my high school being 85% black.
, i, too, had a few black boyfriends in my youth (1980s) and would date a black guy now if he were the right sort of guy for me (which has nothing to do with him being black).
Myths about dating Black men, described by a Black man, can make interracial dating challenging.
The people that cared (in a bad or overly enthusiastic way) were not worth dating or having in my life.
My coworker saw my wallpaper of me and my so on my phone and said, "he's black!
Now, think of every single black person in your community and see they are getting that exact treatment every single day, and your feelings are hurt because guys dont want to give you the level of attention you are accustom to?
When my parents moved there, we bought a house and the first question our neighbors asked of our realtor was if my parents were black.
People generalize based on their experience, so maybe your friends just have experiences with black guys that leads them to believe he was less into anime and more into thick women twerking, or something.
My ex wife is dating a black man
Goldgypsywhisperer 7 points8 points9 points 2 years ago(0 children)what is it with men asking about sleeping with black men?
's rep confirms she's been dating jamal woolard -- best known for playing biggie smalls in "notorious," "all eyez on me" and seemingly every other movie about notorious b.
Society has this "we are no longer racist" mantra, but the second i date someone black, it's like the 50's all over again.
Have you been ignoring the protests about police brutality towards the black community across the nation?
Only was i reminded of the torture of discovering that my life partner, now 48, was cheating on a site that flat-out condoned extramarital affairs, but suddenly i could read the profiles my wife, who used the pseudonym sophia, created during her two stints on ashley madison.
Gold[deleted] 17 points18 points19 points 2 years ago(0 children)there is an unfortunately very wide-spread and very racist view of black men as being exclusively uneducated thugs who are trashy and treat women like garbage, and that the white girls who date them are trashy for finding such men attractive.
I call bs on you trying to taking this "moral high ground" that you recently discovered your friends and famy would suddenly say "once you go black, we don't want you back.
.Matthew was able to read his wifes deleted ashley madison profile (adapted, above) after the site was hacked last week.
People from more progressive areas have a tendency to view it as black and white: either you hate all racists and avoid them, or you are racist.
Dating established professional young men, who apparently have a problem with the fact that i dated a black guy.
My ex is dating a married man
I have dated black men and never run into this sort of questioning, predominantly i think because i don't hang out with ignorant, prejudiced people-- but possibly in small part because gossip just doesn't spread like that in a city.
You can't date 2 weak guys and call off dating because they're intimidated by your past or rumors.
I dated a black guy and my friends told me that no one would want to be with me after that.
Goldload more comments(9 replies)zoibac 82 points83 points84 points 2 years ago(1 child)i consider anyone who has a problem with you having dated a black person pretty douchey no matter their profession.
Goldload more comments(4 replies)[deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago(0 children)dating a black guy just brings so many possibly bad items into play.
Is it going to take for dates to get over the fact that i had a black boyfriend?
Working woman, gay man, black, alternative, beatnik, hippy, you name it once you merely changed an irrelevant detail all that niceness melted off like a bad dream to reveal how superficial it was.
Same goes for your dating issue, it becomes an issue when you let it be.
Tried dating again, but the guy's are intimidated with the fact that my ex is black.
[deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago(0 children)my ex-husband is black and some people reacted to it and others didn't.
Have asked me if he has hit me (he has never), some have told me that i will be a single mom (nope), and have asked me about what it's like to have sex with a black guy.
Goldcatfishjunkie 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago(0 children)married and divorced a black guy and it's never been an issue since.
But its a substantial number when you think of all the havoc those people, including my wife, have wreaked.
Second off, we were on one side of a river here (milwaukee), and everyone one was black.
I'm from california and have heard a lot of this same stuff after dating a black guy in college.
Commentssharetop 200 commentsshow all 278sorted by: best (suggested)topnewcontroversialoldrandomq&alive (beta)karasins 771 points772 points773 points 2 years ago(9 children)if people you were considering dating had an issue with dating a black man, then you don't want to date them anyways.
Screw the people that called me the racist (lol), and suggested that i just move and become destitute because other people have a problem with me dating a wonderful man, who is black.
Live in a small southern town, what i didn't know is that word got out that jared and i was dating.
. one of my good guy friends even told me "once you go black, we don't want you back!
Rather, 2015 of you not being hassled because you dated a black guy, you obviously have no worries or cares about what he must have gone through.
My wife, who was the picture-perfect mother to the outside world [parent-teacher organization] president, community volunteer, the works was turning hostile and contemptuous.
If a guy finds out she was with a black guy, they will instantly drop her.
Right around the same time we started counseling, my wifes friend (who, mind you, is a licensed marriage and family therapist) suggested she sign up for ashley madison, whose tag line is, life is short.
A racist in the bay area would be treated with even more contempt than op's friends seem to have for black people.
'm a white male and one of my girlfriends is black and i got harassed by her ex who is also black when we visited her family for thanksgiving.
Least in the south, its not like a white person gets shot for being in a black area or a black person getting shot in a white area.
mdh217 2 points3 points4 points 2 years ago(1 child)also, do you want to know my dating criteria for when i lived in the south.
. then date people who aren't from your shithole town and have never heard (or, preferably, don't care) about your dating history.
Think i will just focus on my business first, and take myself out of the dating pool for a bit.
Wife, to put it bluntly, was a cold fish in bed throughout our nearly two decades of marriage, so it was devastating to see her explicit fantasies laid out there so unabashedly.
Best friend, who is black, moved from ohio to tennessee for work, and had two years of complete hell.
Goldrememberkoomvalley 98 points99 points100 points 2 years ago(1 child)then you are going to be surrounded by racists, dating racists, and unless you're really careful you will marry a racist and have racist kids.
I mean, a few things happened that reminded me i live in a racist world, but i have never had anyone not want to go out with me because i have had relationships with black men.
My grandmother's friend still calls black people "colored folk," but there isn't a bit of hate in her body.
Wife was a cold fish in bed so it was devastating to see her explicit fantasies laid out there.
Youre seeing things in black and white when there is so much more nuance to it.
Goldblingx 1 point2 points3 points 2 years ago(0 children)i have a friend who is really fucking hot and she's been with two black dudes.
randononymous 0 points1 point2 points 2 years ago(0 children)honestly, it doesn't sound like your ex is ruining your dating life so much as the people you spend time with are.
Is a common "problem" in norway, if people find out you have fucked a black guy you get stapled as a whore and a cum dumpster and you will be used such, you should probably move away or lower you dating requirements because only the fedora white knights would want to date you, at least from where i live.
"my[24f] ex-boyfriend[31m] of 1 year is black and it is ruining my chances with shitty racists i don't want to date anyway.
My girlfriend of one year (we started dating after my wife and i separated) was a little confused as to why i was still so upset.
Because the black guys in my school and neighborhood were fairly homogenous in their attitudes about life, and because mine are different, i would question the fit.
Goldfemra 3 points4 points5 points 2 years ago(0 children)you are going to have to stop dating racists.
This may be because i grew up in a rich part of norway and there is very little black people here.
I think this whole post reeks of you complaining about you having to face an inch of the mile your black community deals with everyday.
When a guy asks me "what's it like to be fucked by a black guy?
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Seems to me it was probably not so nice to anyone black and male and not fitting the stereotype.
. sorry if that hurts your feelings, but imagine what it's like to be told as a black person (or any person of color) that the extensive racism you experience in the south just isn't that bad, and that it's just as bad in other places when experiences have told you otherwise.
Im dating established professional young men, who apparently have a problem with the fact that i dated a black guy.