Pretty sure the disappointment i felt about slow guy had much more to do with my ego than a level of certainty about him.
I have known people who started out dating casually and ended up as a committed, exclusive couple.
When slow guy isnt in front of me, i dont think about him or try to be a mind reader and conjure up what is going on with him.
Thank you for inspiring me on to (continue) having a great time with him and to take the high road.
Handful of gentlemen took to reddit to reveal exactly what they mean when they tell someone theyre dating they just want to take things slow:taking things slowtaught this guy howto differentiate between feelings and infatuation.
Hell if you want a bad relationship with anyone, take on the mindset that they are an enemy and problem.
If hes not willing to be by you and share great and shaky moments then it is obvious he is not in to you and you have to get the point and leave, honestly, at this point it is better to be alone than to stand for some old idiot who doesnt know what he wants.
Its true taking it slow could be something people say when theyjust want to hit-it-and-quit-it without admitting that its going nowhere, more often than not, it could mean so many different things to different people.
The guy i'm dating wants to take things slow
Replied that we are friends and he will like a relationship but we should take things that we should take things as they come.
Those lazy weekend mornings are just as good as taking a road trip to nowhere just because we can, and these people these dreamers, the ones who take it slow will want to hold onto how it feels like their heart is about to jump out of their chest when you call, and theyll want to learn and relearn the cadences of your voice and your favorite book and your favorite quotes and your favorite movie and why.
He didnt bring up anything relationship wise when i awnsered the question, he responded with he would love to take things slow and get to know me better.
Much as i agree about your comments on doing what you are comfortable with, often people are comfortable with being taken advantage of and/or refuse to see the signs that the other person is using them.
So, looking back he was willing to take on the responsibility of sex but not the relationship aspect of it.
Taking things slow is just their way of pretending that not everything comes to an end.
I am also friends with his housemates and they invite me to do things sometimes.
I was really interested in a gal, seriously interested in something long term, i wanted to take at least a few dates/weeks to get to know the person, enjoy each step of building a relationship, build a foundation of friendship first, etc.
The guy i'm dating wants me to meet his friends
I am a firm believer in speaking and accepting the truth even when it isnt pleasant to hear at times that is the only for us (humanity) to grow in all good things.
Terms of him wanting to take it slow and dating other women, my comment is that he is doing what he wants to be doing at the moment.
Well, he decided he didnt want to take on the responsibilty, but he still enjoys my company as a friend because he feels so comfortable around me.
Okay, heres the issue, 3 days ago when i got in game he didnt write me at first like i was used to, i waited a while of course but then i made the initial contact of hey he replied back saying he was busy, meaning he was doing things in the game with his friends, which of course is why ppl play those games.
. as far as i know it is just me he is dating and he tells me he likes me a lot.
If hes bad for you, you will be able to see it if you make an effort to get to know who he is on a deeper level and that can take time.
Think this is such a great post, first because it is so applicable to me right now, and secondly because ive read this post a few times and can walk away with different details regarding my current dating situation each time.
After you had sex, there is no more taking it slow; there shoud be at least exclusivity.
During the times he is busy or traveling he has called to tell me so and has made a point to tell me he is thinking about me and processing everything (on our first date we learned that we are both slow at processing our emotions, with me possibly being even slower than him).
? he hasnt messaged me all day (keep in mind this convo took place last night at like 1am) which to me seems like okay maybe he was trying to let me down nice and pretty much say he no longer wants to talk?
Even tho she's the one who wanted to have sex early on, that texts and calls me constantly, that wants me to see me all the time; as soon as i started showing that i was getting more attached to her she vanished.
To make sure that were doing it right, that were not making any mistakes as we go.
And while i am still interested in slow guy, i know for sure that getting clear on what i want and need, then figuring out if either of these guys are capable of delivering that has been rewarding and most importantly feels really good, and i believe that if i keep following what i feels good (and not just an ego rush or insecurity compensation) all of this will sort out and i will find myself with a guy who makes me happy and is good for me.
Am going to go a different way with thisi read that if a guy is doing things like this even being honest and open he is kind of just doing it b/c he can.
But, we have rushed into things in more ways than just one in the interim between meeting him and starting our dating life, i very quickly learned i would have my children 100% of the time.
Later asked him if he wants a relationship with me or we are bed mates.
. i kinda dragged him and his housemates out to a party (in a nice way) and i did a few stupid drunk things (spilled alcohol, and kissed him in front of our friends which i dont know if that was okay) its not like it was a shocker to anyone but we are not exclusive by any means.
His girlfriend -what i meant to say was, he wants to find a girlfriend who will want to move in with him and settle down.
I unfortunately learned to take things slow because i would get ghosted constantly by girls that i dated for months as soon as i started showing that i was interested in a relationship.
Maybe theres no brakes, maybe theres no way to take things any way other than how we take them.
Was dating a man i liked for two months when i hit some emotional roller coasters.
Never fallen out, we laugh, tease and flirt with each other, yet it takes me aback to hear him say that if his fears dont settle down in the next few weeks, hes going to have to break up with me.
Theyre not trying to let you down easy when they say they want to go slow really, its the opposite, because they like you so much, and thats terrifying to say.
His reasons: he wants to settle down and eventually get his gf to move in with him, and he feels adamant that i need to be free.
The topic then came up where this relationship would go and if wanted to try making us a slow building relationship and getting to know each other.
We took things slow for a bit, and then when i was sure that i did really like her, and that it wasn't a flash in the pan, that was when our relationship started rapidly getting more serious.
Sometimes, if you fast-track through the early relationship stages, things in a relationship can feel stale real fast.
! please understand this, i know it hurts but the sooner you know and react the better, dont let him have total control of your feelings, and do not take his rotten crumbs as a way of excusing him for his lack of care or indifference!
But we said a few more things and he told me that he just really wants to be to cautious with his emotions right now obviously another sign of his past relationship.
So thanks eric, reading it has helped me to define my approach to my current dating situation where after three dates, the guy made it clear that he was interested, but needed to take it slow.
He wasnt sure where things would go with her since it had been such a short time but wanted to take things slow.
Really enjoyed this post eric; from a male point-of-view it is very interesting to hear your take on taking it slow.
He wants to take things slow, dont overthink it as a way for him to bullsh*t you.
, i dont know what will happen to us in the near future since we are taking it slow (whatever that means).
Not that we mean to, not that were looking to do it, but sometimes the most painful things come out of honest ignorance and careless neglect.
At first i was disappointed, but when i thought about it i realized that where i am in my life, a slow dating process might be the best thing for me and i decided to give it whirl.
To the ones who like someone so much it scares them, and who freeze when they hear that one voice, and who think that maybe, if you just take things slow, you can come back up to speed together.
Handful of gentlemen took to Reddit to explain what they mean when they tell a girl they are dating that they have decided to "take things slow.
Girl that i've been dating for the past 2 months is starting to avoid me because i've started to show more interest than in the past weeks.
But life is full of mistakes, no matter how careful you are, and anyway, as you get older, it seems like you cant wait to grow up and do everything you can.